There are many reasons why we get lost. This can happen after a breakup, a death, a job loss, or if you simply have an identity crisis. In today’s inspiring article, I’m going to share with you 10 ways to find yourself so you can feel ‘normal’ again.
Or maybe you are at a point where you are reinventing your life or starting over. Whatever the case, I’ve got you covered.
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How to find yourself again
First we have to understand that we have many ‘I’s. Here are some of them:
- Respect yourself
- self-confidence
- self-love
- Self esteem
- self esteem
They all have the same importance. If you want meetWhat me in particular are you looking for? Self-love? Self-confidence? I feel like it’s important to do a bit of self-discovery to see where you’re missing the real you.
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The best way to know yourself
For many of us who have just gotten out of a toxic relationship or a relationship with a narcissist, one of the things we realize is that we are not the same and we no longer recognize ourselves. We have given up and sacrificed much of who we are to please our partner.
What is left is an empty person and something lost and broken who no longer knows who he is. I think he the best way to know yourself it’s sitting down and writing things about yourself that you love and miss.
You can also write down things that you don’t miss (which may come from the unhealthy relationship) or things that were toxic to you and that you tolerated. Writing is truly therapeutic and quite enlightening.
I remember after leaving my last abusive relationship, getting to know myself was at the top of the list of things I needed to do. I hated who I had become and I didn’t even know who he was anymore. I was sad and crying all the time. It was ugly. That was a lot of work. It was beautiful. It was liberating.
Now is your turn.
So let’s see how to really find yourself in 10 ways!
10 ways to find yourself
1 Make a list of the things you like
I’m a big fan of writing stuff. Letters of truth, love letters to yourself, letters of forgiveness, daily gratitude, you name it, I write it. you could really I love this love letter to me. It is powerful and revealing. It can help you a bit too!
2 Take some time alone
Just sit alone with your thoughts. Listen to soft music, or no music, look out the window, whatever. Listen to what thoughts come to your mind. And yes, you can also write them if you feel like it. But sit alone with no distractions.
Get out of your comfort zone
Try something new once or twice. See if you like it. It could be a new hobby or visiting a new location. Maybe a new coffee shop. Or hop in the car and take a solo road trip to somewhere new.
4 Do something alone
Pick something you would normally do with a friend or a group of friends and do it alone. Either to go to dinner or to the movies. Spending time alone is crucial in helping you find yourself.
5 Take a course
Learning is growth and it will also help you learn things about yourself. Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but never took the time to learn? Do that now. There are many free and affordable online courses.
6 Create a mind map
Like the vision board, I prefer mind mapping if I have to be honest. You may Read more about mind maps here but basically it’s writing down your goals (things you really want to accomplish and achieve) and making a plan to achieve them.
7 Daily Journal
You can write down your feelings or the things you are grateful for. Whatever tickles you the moment you grab your journal and pen. I love keeping a gratitude journal but I also write things down that I want to manifest every new moon. Writing in a journal is a great way to express yourself.
8 Talk to a friend
It’s easy to want to hide in a corner and isolate yourself from the world when we’re feeling sad or lonely, but sometimes talking to a friend can also be the best medicine. Remember, no one knows how you feel unless you tell them. We are not mind readers.
Take an inventory of your life
Writing again, take inventory of who is in your life, who shouldn’t be in your life, the things that are in your life that probably shouldn’t be either, write it all down and take a look at it. There are probably a few things that can surely go! Things that suck the soul. Leave away!!
10 Be kind to yourself
Many of us are too hard on ourselves and beat ourselves up for making bad decisions or staying in toxic relationships longer than we should. Don’t worry about any of that now. Just be kind to yourself, love yourself, honor yourself, and maybe even treat yourself once in a while, too.
You are doing the best you can with what you know and have. And that’s a lot!
talk to a professional
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Finding yourself takes time
And it will take time. Learning and growing is something that never ends. I’m turning 60 this year and I keep learning new things about myself all the time.
Be patient, loving and kind to yourself and don’t forget to keep an open mind. Try new things, get out of your comfort zone, face your fears, push the limits. Soon a new you will emerge!