If you’re dealing with anxiety, you know full well what a bitch it can be, and you know how challenging and difficult living with anxiety can be.
You know that anxiety has the power to completely consume you and that it is something that you cannot chase away in the blink of an eye.
But what’s even worse is when someone isn’t aware of all the things their anxiety makes them do. Sometimes we ourselves are not aware that some of our actions and thoughts are not controlled by us but by this disorder.
1. Avoid people
Your anxiety makes you feel tired and exhausted for no particular reason. It takes all your energy and sometimes you can’t even get out of bed, let alone communicate with others in any way.
And consequently, the people around you think that you are avoiding them. Men assume that you are playing tough and want to be chased.
But the truth is quite different. Sometimes you cancel plans with the people you want to see. And you do it simply because you don’t have the strength to face anyone.
You do it because you need some alone time and because you think you’ll feel better if you stay. But this will not help you, it will only make you lose touch with reality and that is the last thing you need. .
So instead of acting this way, do your best to force yourself to interact with others. Trust me, this is the best way to stop thinking about your problems.
Another thing that you may not know you are doing because of your anxiety is overthinking. But I don’t want to say here that you only analyze important things regarding your life.
No, you dissect literally everything that has happened to you and think about what will happen next.
You are never relaxed and you never go with the flow and you always get tired with some unnecessary thoughts that you cannot avoid even if you want to.
You think about your past mistakes and all the things you wish you had done differently. You think about how some things could have been and are always looking for closure, even when you can’t get it.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being careful with your choices, but that doesn’t mean you should spend sleepless nights racking your brains over every little decision. There are some things that you cannot influence and it is time for you to accept that.
3. Worrying too much
In addition to overthinking, your anxiety also makes you worry too much. You are someone who always looks at things from a negative point of view and someone who will always expect the worst possible outcome and darkest scenario to happen.
When someone shares their problems with you, you allow it to completely overwhelm you and you begin to care about them, as if they were your own. You just don’t have the ability to see things from a brighter perspective, no matter how hard you try.
And that’s all because of your anxiety.
4. Compare yourself to others
One of the worst crimes you can commit with yourself is to compare yourself with others. And that is exactly what you have been doing, thanks to your anxiety.
You’re always worried that you haven’t achieved as much as everyone else and that you’re the only one who’s miserable and the only one who hasn’t done as well. Well let me tell you, this is bullshit.
Stop thinking about others and just focus on improving yourself, without comparing yourself to anyone. You have your own life and that should be your main concern.
5. Thinking that you are not enough
Anxious people are always worried that they are not pretty enough, smart enough, or capable enough. And that’s something you deal with all the time.
Your anxiety constantly makes you question your own worth and makes you doubt yourself, even when there is no apparent reason for such a thing. When you get involved in any type of relationship, you always worry that the other person will see nothing but your insecurities and run away from you because you are not enough for them.
I have to ask you to stop doing this shit. Accept your imperfections and instead of focusing on them, think about the things that you are good at and that make you special.
Start loving yourself and others will follow, I promise.