What are the side effects of being a virgin for too long? How are they affecting your well-being?
I am a firm believer that you should not lose your virginity until you are 100% ready. The last thing you need in life is to be disappointed after intertwining your body with another human being: having sex for the first time.
Many people decide to wait for the right person because they want their first time to be special and with someone they truly love. Also, some people refuse to engage in sexual activities for religious reasons.
There are no right or wrong reasons, but there are some things everyone celibacy should know about Next, you’ll learn all about the side effects of being a virgin for too long!
Which are the Side Effects of Being a Virgin for a Long Time?
From pent up stress and frustration to a weakened bladder, these are all the side effects of being celibate for too long:
1. Your mental performance is slower
When you have less or no sex, it affects the function of your neurons. Simply put, it slows down your thinking abilities when it comes to solving problems, making decisions, generating ideas, organizing data, and the like.
This is confirmed in a study from the University of Maryland:
“Researchers in Maryland and South Korea recently found that sexual activity in mice and rats improves mental performance and increases neurogenesis (the production of new neurons) in the hippocampus, where long-term memories are formed.”
2. Accumulated stress and frustration
After sex, your body releases the following happy hormones: endorphins, oxytocin, and serotonin. They are called happy hormones because they obviously make you happy.
We could say that having sex releases a lot of frustration and stress that can accumulate in our mind and body. So what happens when you don’t have sex at all?
Accumulated stress and frustration can affect your well-being. If you plan to remain a virgin for some time, it’s important to find other ways to release stress, such as exercise or meditation.
(But if you ask me, a steamy sex session is much more satisfying and less exhausting than sweating your ass off at the gym.)
3. Your confidence is affected
Yes, one of the side effects of being a virgin for a long time is related to lowered confidence levels. When you have sex (read: when you really enjoy it and do it “right”), you experience a boost of confidence.
When you’re not having sex, your reproductive organs lose their mojo and you don’t feel as safe as sexually active people. You see, it’s not just about the physical act of sex, it’s much more than that.
It’s about feeling comfortable in your own skin, showing off your body with pride, and learning what makes you climax. It’s about listening to your body, giving and receiving.
Not experiencing those things can affect your mental health and lower your confidence.
4. Celibacy can weaken the bladder
Every muscle in our body requires constant use so that it does not become weak or atrophied. The same goes for your pelvic floor muscles, which can become weak if you don’t have sex.
The pelvic floor muscles support the bowel and bladder (as well as the uterus and vagina in women). When these muscles become weak, you may experience a weakened bladder and premature dribbling.
And yes, there is another way to tighten those muscles (besides having sex). There are many Kegel exercises for men and women that you can repeat throughout the day.
The question is: Would you rather do Kegels several times a day or just have sex once a day? Hmm… 🤔
5. Your immune system is weakened
Having regular sex naturally boosts your immune system, which means you won’t be susceptible to disease.
“Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less frequently.”
Now think about what happens to people who don’t have sex at all. They’re probably sick all the time, which is the real reason they can’t have sex. 😂
This is a complicated situation that requires further exploration. For now, let’s just say that less or no sex can weaken your immune system and decrease your ability to fight disease.
See also: How to increase sexual energy and improve well-being
6. Decreased tolerance to pain
Regular sexual intercourse increases pain tolerance. I cannot fail to mention the famous phrase that women often utter: I’m not in the mood for sex. My head hurts.”
Well, having sex actually works as a natural pain reliever, which means that your headache would be a thing of the past after sex.
Those who suffer from chronic pain or painful menstrual cramps (yuck!), can find relief through sex and orgasm because having sex helps relieve pain.
Either that or you can choose the standard medication. Do you prefer to choose a natural remedy or a synthetic one?
7. Your sleep is affected
Having regular sex can directly influence your sleep pattern in a positive way. After a good session of sex, you sleep like a baby (and eat a LOT).
Now, let’s compare this to celibacy. If you don’t have sex, this will surely affect the quality of your sleep. You feel more restless and tense, and sleeping pills become your best friends.
As you can see, sex is connected to many things. It affects the way we think, our ability to fight disease, and the quality of our sleep.
Having trouble falling asleep is also one of the signs of sexual frustration.
8. Celibacy can cause sexual problems
Okay. So, he has chosen to remain a virgin for now until he is ready to have sex. I won’t go into the reasons for that because it’s none of my business.
Let’s say you decided to have sex after a while. Do you think your body will be in top shape (sexually) and ready to do everything the way you imagined? Maybe it will, but maybe not.
Long periods of celibacy can cause sexual dysfunction problems in both men and women. This means that you may have a hard time becoming sexually aroused and reaching orgasm.
The sexual experience teaches your body how to reach an orgasm and how to behave during sex. In other words, when you are sexually active, there is simply no way (or even less chance) of experiencing sexual dysfunction.
What are the benefits of staying a virgin?
Some obvious benefits of remaining a virgin include a lower risk of STIs, having no problems with birth control, and less shaving. Aside from the side effects of being a virgin for a long time, there are also some benefits of staying a virgin, as listed below:
• Lower risk of sexually transmitted infections
Sexual health should always be a priority when it comes to sexual intercourse. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can seriously interfere with your health and life in general.
This is what the WHO says about sexually transmitted infections:
“More than 30 different bacteria, viruses, and parasites are known to be transmitted through sexual contact, including vaginal, anal, and oral sex. Some STIs can also be passed from mother to child during pregnancy, childbirth and breastfeeding.
I bet staying a virgin has never been more comforting after reading this.
• No stress with an unwanted pregnancy
Unwanted pregnancy can change your life and make you regret having sex. I’m not saying babies aren’t cute and all, but they do come with responsibilities.
If you are not prepared for that, you can ruin not only your life but also the life of your child.
No sex means no stress about an unwanted pregnancy because no method of birth control is 100% reliable and some can have side effects.
See also: How to stop being horny: 10 effective ways to control your sexual impulse
• No stress with birth control
Male condom, female condom, oral contraceptives, vaginal ring, implant… There are so many birth control methods, but no one can guarantee that you won’t get pregnant or get someone else pregnant.
Every time my period was late after intercourse, I immediately thought I was pregnant, even though I always used protection. Such stressful situations can really ruin you.
Not to mention all those side effects that come with certain types of birth control. If you stay a virgin, you will definitely save a lot of time and stress in regards to all of this.
• Less pressure
Will they walk away after I have sex with them? How long should I wait before having sex in a relationship?? What if we are not sexually compatible?
No sex = no pressure.
You won’t have to worry about having sex too soon or too late when dating someone new. You won’t have to worry about losing them because you slept with them too soon or too late.
You won’t have to worry about sexual compatibility, faking orgasms, and getting a headache when your partner is in the mood.
• Less shaved
Raise your hand if you’re sick and tired of shaving! I bet all the ladies raised their hands, including some men too.
Having regular sex means you have to prepare for it, and the worst part of this preparation is shaving. 🙄
There have been times when I have had to stop having sex just because I was too lazy to shave. Really. Being in a sexless marriage or staying a virgin is definitely a long-term solution to this problem.
• More anticipation
When you and your partner know you won’t be having sex anytime soon (read: until you’re both ready), it creates more anticipation.
is when the sexual tension Between the two of them it’s so strong that you can’t breathe. Every time you anticipate something, it feels ten times more enjoyable. The same applies to sex.
You can choose to have sex after marriage or after a few months of dating. I’m sure the anticipation will be raging, similar to those newlywed virgin honeymoon sex stories.
Yes. There are some side effects of being a virgin for too long. However, there are also some benefits of being a virgin.
You can choose to have sex with as many partners as you want or just one (but make sure you practice safe sex). You can also choose to remain a virgin.
I don’t know your personal reasons for either of these options, but I don’t even need to know. The most important thing is that you do what you think is right and what feels right to you.
Also, if you’re still a virgin, don’t worry about dating someone who has had many partners. We all have our own unique paths when it comes to our sexuality and life in general.