If you’re reading this right now, I’m going to assume your confidence isn’t at an all time high. It’s okay. Mine isn’t always either. Today I am going to share how to have more self-confidence in 3 super easy steps.
Being self-confident is not easy and it takes practice and a bit of hard work too. But these 3 easy steps on how to become more confident in yourself are going to surprise you!
Does the following ring a bell?
Some days we feel like we can conquer the world. Other days we want to curl up and hide. are you here with me Already. I understand you
There was a time when I had absolutely 0 confidence in myself. Any. Zippo. Any. Oh she used to walk with her head held high thinking that she was the queen of the castle but i was not. It was just a show. I was just pretending. I don’t have anything.
No self-esteem, low self-esteem, no self-confidence. Not.a.thing.
I took a long time after that I left my last abusive relationship build confidence and work on my fucking self esteem. He asked me a million questions all the time:
- who are you vat
- What do you want in life?
- why don’t you love yourself?
- what’s wrong with you?
Those and many other questions. I spent a full year on a journey of personal growth. It was hard, but I did it. That happened about 8 years ago and to this day I’m still working on myself. I still read inspirational blogs on how to become more confident.
I probably always will.
How to gain confidence
It’s not like you can take a 6 month course and then graduate and think your poop doesn’t stink anymore and you’re good to go. No not at all. You are constantly learning, evolving and reading blogs about ‘how to gain confidence’ Y ‘how to have more self-confidence’ Y ‘how to work your low self-esteem’.
If you had a shitty education like mine or too many toxic relationships with narcissists then you know the triggers happen. You also know how difficult it is to increase your confidence by yourself. It’s hard to do that when we don’t believe in ourselves or love ourselves.
But it’s not impossible either. If you’re still here and reading, you’re determined to learn how to be more self-assured and welcome back!!!
Building trust takes practice
You know that ‘fake it ’til you make it’ line? Already. That. It is helpful as you are building trust. Trust me on that. You’re not always going to believe the things you tell yourself so you’ll believe more in yourself.
All positive affirmations are great, but sometimes they’re just words on a billboard.
We read them and walk away.
But you have to read them and let them sink in. You have to read them over and over again. You have to yell them at yourself sometimes. It may sound silly at first. I don’t mind. Do it anyway. It helped me learn to gain confidence in myself.
It will work for you too. But. You have to work it.
How to have more self-confidence in 3 easy steps!
You can try all of these steps or 1 or 2 or even none, but I encourage you to at least try. Please. Remember nothing changes if nothing changes. And also remember, you are worth it!!
I love this quote from Jen Sincero:
You are big trouble!
You can see more Jen Sincero quotes here:
10 Sincere Jen Quotes That Will Remind You How Bad You Are
So, let’s get to the 3 steps on how to become more confident so you can kick the world’s butt and show them who’s boss. Or something like that.
1 Write yourself a letter
A love letter if you will. Talk about all the amazing and wonderful gifts you have to offer the world. Are you a good singer or maybe you are a fantastic artist? Maybe you have a heart of gold or have a warm and sunny personality.
Write down each thing you love about yourself and then remind yourself how amazing you are. I wrote this letter a while ago and it sure has a big impact.
Dear me, damn you!
To be honest, every once in a while I still go back and read that letter. It’s so powerful. When you write yours, make sure it’s as awesome as you are.
2 Mirror Talk
Need a confidence boost in a jiffy? You know those days when you feel really low and want a quick fix? Mirror talk kicks some serious butt.
It might seem very strange at first but when you do it enough you get used to it and then after a while whenever you look in a mirror out of habit you only talk to yourself! It’s great!
You can do this on the bathroom mirror, bedroom mirror, hallway mirror, I really don’t know which mirror you use. The reflection is all the same, beautiful, charming YOU!
Go up to that mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are. Tell yourself how amazing you are. Tell yourself how amazing you are. It will be difficult at first. Trust me on that. It will feel awkward and like we are lying to ourselves.
But you’ll see. On time. You will believe yourself and you will be looking for mirrors!!
3 Dress for success
I don’t mean you’re ready to jump down the red carpet or go to dinner with Jason Momoa (oh hi), but I know personally, when I’m feeling down, I stay in my pajamas all day with a bedhead and hide .
It’s not entirely recommended, but I’m being honest here.
What do I mean by dressing for success?
You don’t have to go out and spend a fortune on a new wardrobe or anything, but the next time you go to the mall or the grocery store or wherever, go that little extra mile and maybe brush up your hair or put on that pencil. killer lipstick that makes you feel invincible.
Go the extra mile and make yourself! Not for everyone else but for YOU! You know when you look like a million bucks you FEEL like a million bucks. Don’t skimp the next time you’re getting ready to go somewhere.
Put on those beautiful earrings. Apply that shimmery eyeshadow on your eyelids. No restrictions baby!
There are so many ways how to be more self-confident?
There are probably a million other ways to help build your confidence, but these 3 worked wonders for me and continue to do so when I need a confidence boost. I understand that your self esteem and self esteem is at an all time low, but only you can fix that.
You are the only one who can work with you! Aren’t you worth it? Of course you are.