Each and every one of us has toxic Or negative people in our lives. These time vampires can suck the life out of you. I am going to share how to deal with negative people and the 6 different types to avoid.
First of all, I want to say that I understand that some of these negative people happen to be family members. I feel you. Most of my family members are toxic and negative. Hey My saving grace now is that I live in a different country and I rarely see them anymore.
I’m not saying you should move to a new country… but… if you can, well… haha!
But let’s say you have a friend or co-worker/family member/neighbor/etc. with which you keep hanging around. You know you should get rid of them or at least limit your time with them, but you don’t.
You keep hanging around and the more time you spend, the more you realize you’ve become just as toxic as they are! You know you want to get rid of them. You know you can’t stand visiting or hanging out, but you still do and you don’t do anything to change it.
But it can be hard to know how to deal with negative people, especially if you hate confrontation or are a people pleaser.
But these negative people stay in our lives.
Fast forward a few weeks, months, years later and these negative people are still in our lives. Why? Because now we almost feel trapped and we just can’t break away. Do yourself a favor. Break away. Now.
Many of us think of toxic behavior as physical violence, verbal abuse, or some other type of attack. But there’s more than that.
These people are more than that. They have such negative thoughts all the time and do hurtful things to others.
Here is my list of some of the negative traits that I think you should avoid, especially in a relationship. If your partner is doing any of these things, and counseling is out of the question, it’s time to go.
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How to deal with negative people
Here is a list of 6 types of negative people to avoid and how to avoid them.
Controllers
This is a big no no and very toxic behavior. In my personal experience, controllers almost always have no control over their own lives and blame others for everything that is wrong. Because of this, they need to control others as it gives them a sense of accomplishment.
Don’t let anyone control you, ever. This is your life, not theirs. Learn to use your voice and say “No, you don’t have the right to control me, but thanks for your suggestion.” Just stop them!
Those who judge
Oh how my heart aches when people do this. No one of us is perfect. Who are we to judge? One of my family members used to do this all the time and it drove me crazy. He was so mean and ignorant and he always said rude things about other people.
Please don’t do this and if you are around people who are doing it, stay away. It is negative energy. You can talk and say “hey who are you to judge” or “please let’s not judge anyone before we are perfect”. Something. Anything.
The Self-Centered/Absorbed/Righteous
Gross. These people do not care about you or anything about you or anyone else. All they care about is themselves. The world desperately needs love, kindness and compassion, something these people only have for themselves, not for others.
Sprinkle some love and kindness on them and hope that one day they can change. This is another chance for you to use your voice and change the subject!
the dishonest peeps
Now, that should almost go without saying, but far too often we let slip of little white lies and go along with this behavior. Do not do that. Little white lies eventually turn into bigger lies and no one who has to go through life lying can be trusted. Ever. Lying hurts my heart too.
Confidence is so easily lost, but it is the most important quality to have. First sign of dishonesty of any kind, walk away. Oh, and by the way, it’s okay to tell people they’re lying. This will shut them up.
The angry all the time
Let me explain. We all get angry sometimes over little things, big things, or whatever. We all do. But there is always that person who is angry all the time and never sees the good in anything and is always so pessimistic. Stay away from this person.
Anger is such a terribly low vibrational energy that nothing good ever comes of it. If you must be around someone like this, it’s okay to let them know that their anger is upsetting the people around them and then just walk away! Another chance for you to use your voice.
The complainers and the complainers
Have you ever been stuck in a room or at a party with someone whining and complaining just to get your sympathy? Nothing is going right in his life, ever. Work is bad, home life is bad, everything is just always bad and wrong. They complain just to hear their own voice.
They also complain because they want you to lick their wound and say “Oh, poor you, that’s horrible!”. Back. They will suck you into their vortex and you will be trapped there for what seems like an eternity. You can let them know that they have a LOT of things to be thankful for and if they are so miserable with their life to do something about it!
Remember, your voice!
Negative thoughts, we all have them!
You know, life is meant to be lived in joy, peace, love and freedom. I understand that not every day is good and sometimes we need to meet negative people like the ones mentioned above to learn lessons. I also understand that we all have negative thoughts at times.
We are not perfect, none of us. But be careful around people with these character traits, as these traits are often a constant in your life. It’s who they are. You don’t have to be a part of their life or keep them in your life.
Learn the lesson and start walking. Don’t let these toxic people infect you so much that they ruin your day or worse, you become like them.
Negative people can and do change.
However, don’t forget that people do change. I did. I used to have some of these horrible character traits, but after a year of life-changing lessons and profound personal discovery, I changed my life. These negative people can do it too!
When they’re ready.
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